deep-dived the words

'All of us, when in deep trauma, find we hesitate, we stammer; there are long pauses in our speech. The thing is stuck. We get our language back through the language of others. We can turn to the poem. We can open the book. Somebody has been there for us and deep-dived the words.'

Jeanette Winterson 2011
Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?
Jonathan Cape, London
p. 9
http://www.jeanettewinterson.com/  

Erich Fromm: 'The Art of Loving'

 p. 21

A completely decisive entrance to the often buried and repressed need for love is the perception of one's own inner obstacles.

... this encounter is also always defined by distorted experiences in relationships. A way to inner life is to overcome those impediments that have been built not only by one's relationship to one's parents but are also caused by society.

A market economy that is based on competition and success has a totally different understanding of love. The ability to love depends here upon whether one makes the best out of oneself, whether one is able to assert oneself in the competition, and reach the level of partnership, tolerance, and fair play. Everyone should be "okay" and be able to perform successfully. 

The person orientated toward a market economy would like to make a good impression, to succeed - and to find love through his success.

In reality, however, he has no need to love, but rather another need, that prevents him from feeling his need for love and to express his need. 

To acknowledge or recognise such obstacles to the awareness of needs requires a critical distance from everything that is expected and practiced in such a society. 

p. 27

... the idea of a human being whose goal is vital self-expression and not the acquisition and accumulation of dead, material things. 

from The Art of Loving [1956]
by Erich Fromm
published Harper Perennial 2006

'Happiness and Well-being: Defining a New Economic Paradigm' UN Conference, New York, April 2012

The conference was convened by Bhutan, which tops Asia in the first World Happiness Report. The tiny Himalayan nation convened the meeting seeking to develop a new economic model based on principles of happiness and well-being. The report also listed a number of practical suggestions for governments to promote happiness among their citizens, including helping people meet their basic needs, reinforcing social systems, implementing active labour policies, improving mental health services, promoting compassion, altruism and honesty, and helping the public resist hyper-commercialism.