selbstinszinierung durch fremdbestimmung, a photo by der bobbel on Flickr.
from The Dustbowl of Good and Evil by Tom Richardson
'while fireworks
and fluro wristbands
flash in the dark summer night
Her husband sits in the parking lot
She doesn't see his tears'
Crying For Health (source unknown)
'Crying
is one of our first socialising behaviours, similar to smiling and
laughing. It lets others know how we feel, without needing to use
words.
Babies
cry to attract the attention of their parents. Orphans don't cry as
much, and often have difficulties reading mood and expressing themselves
emotionally.
As
we get older, crying becomes a submissive behaviour. Tear-filled eyes
blur vision and make us seem vulnerable, and therefore less of a threat.
Crying also expresses our emotional distress and calls our tribe to
gather round and support, or forgive.
Crying,
similar to laughing, also has an effect on our brain and 'healthiness'.
Work pressure, anxiety, depression and relationship problems affect the
levels of 'stress' hormones in our body.
Crying
helps to rebalance the stress hormones, even if only for a short time,
makes us feel better and expresses profound emotion.'
'...generosity
springs from unshakeable confidence in the possession of goodness. In
order to connect with this confidence, we need to let go of our limited
self-concept and open up to the limitless power of the buddha qualities,
allowing them to enter our own lives - or rather, to rediscover them
there - and to radiate out to all beings. By definition, goodness cannot
be kept for oneself; virtue. goodness, and richness ... are inseparable
from their generosity ... Through wisdom we recognise the inherent
potential for enlightenment in all beings, making it impossible to
disrespect them simply because they are different. Feeling our essential
sameness deeply, however strange others may sometimes seem to us, gives
us the power of sympathy and empathy. Emotional reactions of liking and
disliking begin to lose their importance, so that impartial,
all-embracing love can blossom in their place. Inner equanimity develops
from seeing that the same opportunity for awakening exists in all
circumstances, whether happy or sad, pleasant or unpleasant, privileged
or deprived.'
https://www.lionsroar.com/author/francesca-fremantle/
https://flic.kr/p/8nHbub
'Many
perfectionists believe that they must earn love and approval by being
outstanding. An alternative philosophy would be that our vulnerabilities
and flaws - and not our successes and strengths - ultimately make us
lovable and human. People can be admired or resented - but never loved -
for their successes and achievements.'
https://feelinggood.com/
